Disturbing The Piece!! Why Do People Mess With Your Peace?

Are you often left wondering why certain individuals feel the need to disrupt your peace? In this episode, we delve into the intricate dynamics of relationships that lead to emotional chaos and stress. From friends who intrude upon our tranquility to acquaintances who fail to respect our emotional boundaries, we uncover the common patterns that disturb our inner harmony. 

Our conversation reflects on the motivations behind such disruptions, emphasizing that often, the intruder’s insecurities drive their actions. We also share personal stories that resonate with the listeners, allowing for a collective understanding of how interruptions can create emotional turmoil. The discussion encourages listeners to consider their own experiences and think critically about their relationship habits. 

The value in identifying these toxic patterns cannot be overstated. This episode is packed with insights on how to recognize and mitigate the impact of external disturbances in your life. We recommend that listeners cultivate self-awareness, nurture their inner peace, and set firm boundaries to protect their mental health. 

Join us as we probe these essential topics, and be empowered to take charge of your emotional well-being. Share your thoughts with us, engage in the conversation, and remember: protecting your peace may be the most vital step you take this year. Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review!

Chapters

• 0:00 Intro: What’s On My Mind
• 12:00 The Concept of Disturbing the Peace
• 25:00 Relationship Chaos: Why Do They Come?
• 43:00 The Emotional Impact of Disturbance
• 1:25:00 Understanding Intentions and Boundaries
• 2:50:00 Conclusion: Finding Your Own Peace

Transcript

DJ KORNBRED: 0:02

what's up? Y'all? It's your girl, Dj kornbred aka the empress for shit show, the podcast. Oh my god, welcome to the show. It has been, uh oh, it has been on my mind like really, really strong, and I just wanted to come in on this episode on some like disturbing the peace. This episode is going to be called disturbing the peace because I feel like if you're doing any and everything and you're on your toes, everything is in your mind, going perfect, you don't have any kind of issues with anything.

DJ KORNBRED: 0:43

Why do people feel like they have to come in and disturb your peace? So I like I mean, I don't understand it. Especially like with it can be relationships, it can be friends, it can be anything to that aspect and I feel like even family. If I'm having no problems whatsoever, everything is good. I feel like I, you know I'm in a great space, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, you know, and you have somebody come and they're just you know, they just mess up. They just disturb your peace, like like ludicrous, like DTP shout out to Luda um, it's just like disturbing the peace. Why must you come in and disturb my peace? Like don't leave me be, leave me be. Like I don't understand. I don't understand it. Please, please, leave me be. It's like people these days you come around for you know the reason that you want to come around for and I mean, I just don't understand it. So, like, if you know you don't want to be around a person or be in their space, honestly, but you come around when you want to or just to. You know, make sure you let this person know. You know you there or you just, oh yeah, I'm around and this, this and that, but you really know you don't want to be there. It's kind of a big thing for me, like I don't, I don't want to be there. It's kind of a big thing for me, like I don't. I don't understand why certain people do certain things. Then, as far as when it goes, as far as friends, like friends that come around and disturb your peace, if you know that you are a person that you really don't want to be around somebody, or you, low-key, do, or and you know they're not really doing what you want them to do, or I don't know, it can be anything like stay away from, stay the fuck away from, leave them alone. Do you stay on your own? You know ten toes down on your own shit. You got going on. Let these people do what they want to do, just like me too. Let me be me. Let me do what I want to do. Don't come fucking with me. Don't come fucking with my space, my earth. I want to breathe, all it is. I just don't come messing with me, don't come doing nothing.

DJ KORNBRED: 3:20

I just don't understand people these days. It's like people can say what they want to say and I just don't understand people. These days, people can say what they want to say and they do what they want to do, but then they make sure that they do what they want to do in their shit. Then, when it comes time, they come to you fucking with your shit, disturbing your peace. It's like leave me alone, leave me alone, stay where you at. Stay over there, little baby. Like honestly, stay over there. Like I just I really don't understand it. But yeah, this, this is like. I have been thinking about this like all week and I don't understand why people you know they don't, they don't just stay in their space why do you? Why must you go disturb somebody else's peace On top of just like, even if you're like in a relationship or you're not in a relationship or I don't know what these guys and girls call themselves doing these days. They can be talking to somebody and then turn around and just act like they doing some other stuff. Oh yeah, I'm not in a relationship or I'm not doing this, this, and that it's complicated. It's complicated. No, no, it's not complicated, it's not complicated. You, over there, where you're at, and what's happening? It's not going how you want it to go. So since it's not going how you want it to go over there, then you want to go somewhere else and try to talk to somebody else or mess with them mess with this woman, this man, whatever the case may be and you want to interrupt their peace and start disturbing them. Why do that? Why do people do that like? Why? Why do y'all do that? Why do people do that? I don't understand it. I don't understand it. Like, let people stay in their own space, especially if you're not ready to be in that person's space. If you know you're not ready, don't act like you're ready. Don't lie and act like you want to be in that person's space, knowing you don't want to happens.

DJ KORNBRED: 5:26

A lot of bad things happen when people come around, or a person comes around and they know that they're in a relationship with somebody or how they feel themselves talking to somebody and it actually does not go how they want it to go. So then they come trying to hurt somebody else it to go. So then they come trying to hurt somebody else or do other things to somebody else to the point where they'll try to use a person Like I've had someone come around me and act like they wanted to be with me, just to use me to get to where they wanted to be in their career, get to where they want it to be in their career. But when it gets to the point where you're dealing with abuse and mind manipulation and other types of things, it's just like it's. It goes to a totally different level. It's a totally different level, like you.

DJ KORNBRED: 6:22

That's when it comes when police are involved and it gets really, really serious, to the point you like I don't even know what to do anymore Like should I hurt this person? Should I do this to this person? Should I go? You know it's just a big, it's a big issue, it's a big thing. And this person the whole time they came over here disturbing your peace, when they could have stayed where they were at and kept doing what they were doing, like they could have stayed with the person they were with, and it put them through hell. If that's what they decide to do, that's they wanted to do, let's put them through hell. Let them put them through hell. Stay over there and do what you gonna do. Don't come over here.

DJ KORNBRED: 7:02

You know, doing all that extra and having this, having me or anybody, having a person, all riled up and stressed out because you have what you going, you have what you have going on over there and you know what I'm not even going to say it's bad. It could be good. You could have some good things, people will have some good things and great things going on on one side, but then they'll go mess up another home, a happy family, you know, you know side, and you're just like, oh my goodness, like you could have stayed where you was at. Why come over here messing with me and dramatizing this, having all this stuff going on over here? You could have stayed where you were at, and that that's really, really stressful, because some people don't deserve a lot of people don't deserve that. Some people don't deserve that Like.

DJ KORNBRED: 7:51

And then you have other people that will be. They will be on the outside looking in, not even knowing exactly what's going on and what's happening, but they'll be on the outside looking in and just look at it like, okay, well, you shouldn't have been messing with this person or you shouldn't have been talking to this person, not knowing that before you got in this situation, you was told something totally different, totally different people will finesse you. People will finesse you and make you feel and think you're the only one they're talking to, you're the only one they're trying to come at, or this, this, and that you are single. You not with your baby mama, you not with your baby dad, anything they can just be just trying to. Oh, I ain't got this, this neck going on, and that goes for women and men. I don't have this going on. I'm not dealing with her, uh, I'm just. I'm there for the kids. You know that's what a lot of people like to say.

DJ KORNBRED: 8:39

A lot of men like to say that, a lot of women, however you want to put it, I'm just there for the kids. We only uh talking because the kids I'm not. You know, we ain't together or anything like that. It's, it's all about the kids. I'm only there for the kids. I just don't that. That's not. Um, no, I don't believe it. I don't believe it.

DJ KORNBRED: 8:59

Miss me with that, miss me with that, and I will continue to say miss me with that, because now there ain't no truth in it. Like you have a person all over there, sad and they not know, knowing what to do, what they've gotten themselves into. And you're sitting here just like, oh, my God, I found this man, he just loved me, he just you know, he's this, he's that. Or you saying that you found this woman, she's in love with you and she doesn't have anything going on. She 100% for you, you 100% for her, but the whole time not knowing this person got a whole nother life or relationship on the back end that they're not even telling you about. And you sitting here thinking like everything is just peaches and cream and this person is only for you and this person ain't even just for you, baby, this person is for everybody. But then what kills me is that they will sit there and let you do any and everything for them, looking like a fool, knowing that they're not going to get the same thing in return and they don't care. And they could care less if they were going to get the same thing in return and I mean it's just a big. That's just a big, big issue to me. I don't, like I said it's, it's, it's scary and it's it hurts.

DJ KORNBRED: 10:33

You know a lot of people. Because you don't know. You know a lot of people. You don't know what people have been through. You don't know what they have been through. You don't know what they are. You know they're stressed about. You don't know. You know what people have told them and promised them, because there's a lot of women that are in relationships because they can't get out or they can't move around. You never know what people have going on to the point where they want to move around, but they're stuck in that space because of because of a reason. And some of the men that are in that situation, they will sit there and finesse everything about it, whether it's a baby mama or a friend, or a girlfriend, or someone they call themselves, you know talking to or whatever. They'll finesse the whole situation to be using that person and it can be a single mom, it can be anything.

DJ KORNBRED: 11:26

It just why disrupt, you know, someone's peace, knowing that you're going to. You're just going to mess it up, you're going to just stress them out. You're going to damage their mental you know, thinking and ability to be able to function daily. Cause I mean, y'all people need to understand when you have a conversation with someone, it goes a long way. When you're in a relationship with someone, it goes a long way. So, rather, if you're in a relationship with someone for a week, two months, two years, 10 years, the little time that you guys spent together or that you were around each other, it goes a long way.

DJ KORNBRED: 12:13

I don't care what happens in their lifetime. When they do meet you, a person might say, oh yeah, been there, done that, met him, met her, talked to you know, there was nothing, don't you worry about it, that was trash or that was garbage. They can say that all day, but best believe, one time in your life a conversation is going to come up or something. Somebody is going to talk about something and it's going to make you go back and think about that person. I don't care what it is Like I said, you can have known that person and had a conversation with them one or two times and you might not remember that person like on a hundred percent level, but you, you're gonna remember something out of that conversation and if you don't remember that conversation, you're gonna remember something out for that person, the way that person looked there, and remind you of something else, to the point where, like I said later on, in the long run it's it will come back and you will. You'll be thinking about it or thinking about the conversation or, whatever the case may be, what was going on in that situation.

DJ KORNBRED: 13:14

But, like I'm saying, like the, I don't understand why people they come mess with your peace, like leave people alone, let them be where they're at, let them deal with what they're dealing with. If you know you have no intentions of being with somebody, or you know trying to be with them or trying to make something work or even be in their life period, and it's only just like, oh, I just want to make sure I'm still secure, type thing. No, don't do that. Don't, don't do that. Don't go disturbing a person's peace just to try to see if you're still secure. No, like it's okay to speak. And gone about your when it comes to like other things. You know you're not 100 percent in it for that and you're you know that that's not something that you want. So I just feel like people should not go. You know, messing with other people's peace and disturbing them when they know that's not where their heart is peace and disturbing them when they know that's not where their heart is and just causing like chaos. You're causing all this disruptions and this energy, this negative energy, especially, like I said, when you go and you're not thinking about being with these people and it's just like I don't understand it.

DJ KORNBRED: 14:27

Like leave them alone. Stop taking people, people on a ride. That's what I got to. Don't ride me alone. What they used to say don't string me alone that's the old folks used to say. Don't string me alone, please, don't string me alone. Leave me be.

DJ KORNBRED: 14:44

That's why, at this point in time, I always say I'm like, I don't want nobody to like me. Don't like me, don't like me, don't love me, don't say I'm cute. None of that, I don't care what it is. Don't do, none of that, don't, mm-mm, I don't want none of that shit to rub off on me and rub me the wrong way. Just leave me, be and where I'm at. You see what I'm saying. Leave me, because these days I mean people don't. They don't know what's going on, they don't know what they want to do. They just want to come, mess up your life, mess up your life and just I'm saying like this it's just, yeah, it's. I don't understand, I don't understand people, I don't understand people. But another thing I have.

DJ KORNBRED: 15:43

I mean I wanted to say why do certain people, when they get in relationships, they get in them knowing that's not where they want to be? You know that's not where you want to be. You know you don't want to have anything to do with that situation right now, or I know any. You know, whatever the case may be, but you go poking around trying to make something happen or trying to do something, but you know that's not really where you want to be. Like I just don't understand it. Like you know you don't want to be there. You know you don't want to be there, but you go. You go making noise. You go making noise and doing all types of stuff, like I don't know. That to me is just like a whole big, another big ordeal. Like don't do that.

DJ KORNBRED: 16:42

And men, I always have had a question. I just don't understand why men do that all the time. Men, they just you know you don't want to be with a female, but you go disturbing her piece and messing with her and trying to talk to her and just act like you want that. You want that, but you know you don't want that. That's not what it is. Why do they do that? And why can't a woman make a certain amount than a man, to the point where he feels like he does not have to be obligated to do anything in a relationship? Where does that come in? I don't understand nothing about that. Like who, who made that shit up? Who said that shit was what, what was up? And who said that shit was accurate? What happened to the 50, 50 or you got some men. They shit 70, 20, I mean 70, 30 and stuff like that. But like ain't no, 50, 50, no more.

DJ KORNBRED: 17:31

These days it's like guys be looking for women to get in relationship with, where, oh, it gotta be 100, zero like. Or it could be 90, 10 and 10 of that is me acting like I love you just so I can get that other 90 percent. Like no, who does that shit? Who told people that shit was okay? Like no, that shit is not okay. Like who? Who said that? I just don't understand why. I mean who who thinks like you're supposed to sit there, sit back, okay, you want me to come home, be here, you want me to cook clean, make sure the kids is okay and and work too, and you go to work too, and then you want me to do 90, and then 10 is you come and give me sex or something like that. Or you coming home and just, you know, eat it. I mean, what are you giving me?

DJ KORNBRED: 18:25

Because majority of the time, a lot of men don't like to give conversation, relationships period. You have to make sure you, with somebody that loves to talk and that's going to stand on what they say, they're going to stand on and not just talk just to be talking. So like if you tell me okay, well, I'm going to make sure I do better. When we have a conversation and something is going on and we are having an argument or a disagreement, it should not be a oh so, and so this is net. Wow, yeah, I'm, I'm not wrong, but you right, you right, you right, you always right.

DJ KORNBRED: 18:59

No, that's not what a person is saying. It's not that I'm always right, it's that I want you to understand the conversation. I understand what I'm saying and we're both going to acknowledge if we were wrong or right or however we felt, and then we're going to come to an agreement and fix the situation. It's not always an argument or always saying that this person is right and this person is wrong. Nobody's saying that. Just say, okay, you know what, I was wrong, I was wrong, I was right and you know, I understand, you know this and that, but don't, I don't know, just don't. It's always when you're in a relationship, you can't be pointing fingers. Don't point fingers. That's so old, back in the day, kid, kiddie, shit.

DJ KORNBRED: 19:44

No, because I stopped talking to you because you did this, or I didn't respond because you did this or I did that. I don't really got over that. I mean I'm, you did this. So I just said I don't really got over that. I mean I'm not gonna say I'm not petty. I ain't gonna say I used to be petty, but um, but I, you know, say I was like you said, like like I would sit there and I'm just like okay, well, okay, that's that's what we doing. That's what we doing. Okay, well, no calls for me or no, nothing for me, or it's just like you know, I'm just over here. Okay, forget about it, it is what it is mute block, you know something like that, something to that extent where it's like nothing is going on. Nothing is going on. Don't call me, don't text. You see me in the street, don't speak to me. You know I was on stuff like that.

DJ KORNBRED: 20:32

But once you get older, it's, like you realize I mean especially spiritually, like when you get connected with God and you have. So you know it's so much that he has for you that he's worse. Especially he's working on you because he's working on me still, and it's like you just have have to understand, like you know, what Life is too short these days. It's like so much going on, there's so much going on in the world. So it's like at this point in time in my life I don't even have time to sit in, stress and argue with a significant other or argue with a partner or whatever you want to call it. Who has time for it? There's so much going on. People we have kids.

DJ KORNBRED: 21:14

I mean, even if you don't have kids, there's just a lot going on to the point where nobody has time to just sit here and worry about arguing and stressing and, you know, trying to see who can have the most women and who can have the most men and who talking to this girl and who's talking to this man and I mean who nobody has time to do that, like that is so stressful. Even cheating and stuff like that, like who wants to do that? Who still cheats that shit is so boring. Who still cheats? Like I don't, I really don't understand it. Who sits there and just like, okay, it's time to cheat, yes, it's just like, it's just a lot. I mean I don't understand man, it's a lot. It's just a lot. I mean I don't understand man, it's a lot.

DJ KORNBRED: 22:43

I just wish that people would just take what they have and just enjoy life and their significant others and people and just try to understand, like, where people are coming from. Sometimes you have to just sit and listen and I had to learn that sometimes you know it's. I mean I do want people to hear me and you do want people to hear what you have to say. But you also have to sit there and listen to others and see what you know where they, where their mind is, like what, what are they thinking about? Because some people they won't, some people won't listen. You know they. They just want you to hear them and think everything they're saying is right and it is just your way, or the highway, as they used to say back in the day, it's my way, or the highway. You know what I'm saying, it's my way. But, um, yeah, it's not.

DJ KORNBRED: 23:28

I mean, yeah, you have to just listen, listen to people and just make sure you're in a space where everything you you know everything is is okay, just pray when you need to pray. I'm not even going to say when you need to pray. You need to be praying every day and I mean I know sometimes I don't pray every day, but yeah, you need to just make sure you're. You're in a space. If you know you're not ready for something like that or ready to be in somebody's space, just don't don't go disturbing their peace, like, let them, let them do what they need to do, let them be where they're, you know, be where they're at and just you know, leave them. Leave them, be like, leave them there, let them, don't do nothing extra.

DJ KORNBRED: 24:15

A lot of people sometimes that stuff stresses them out when people try to come, be around and you might, you never know what that person is going through or what. You know what, what they want at that time, or what they had just been through or gone through, and then you turn around and try to talk to them or act like you want to be around them and they're thinking, oh okay, I finally found this person and they really are showing me that they're for me or that they want to be around me. And then you go do some weird stuff, knowing good and well your intentions are bad in the first place, or your intentions might not be bad, but you aren't trying to be around them for the reason that they thought you were trying to be around them and that there itself, you know, scares people like it, scares people to the point where it sometimes it makes people not even want to be around other people. And I mean, that's why some people, you just have to stay, stay to yourself and just know like, if you're not ready to be be around anyone, just stay in your own space, stay in your own space and leave them. Leave them where they're at and just let them be them. Like you can love a person from a distance, you can love a person from a distance, you can be around a person, just you know, just love them from, from a distance, and just make sure you don't disturb their peace.

DJ KORNBRED: 26:08

We're gonna have some call-ins next time, um, and I just want to want to know where y'all sit on the situation, where y'all. Where do you guys think you know? What do you think about the whole disturbing the peace thing? Do you think it's okay for people to disturb your peace? Or you feel like, no, maybe god they send people around you, you know, to disturb your peace for a certain reason, which sometimes that might be true god will send people around you or send storms there, or send around you to destroy certain things, because he might feel like that you're doing too much or you're in an area that you don't need to be in, or you're trying to take people with you that don't need to be with you. So certain stuff like that will happen and sometimes your peace will get disturbed.

DJ KORNBRED: 26:57

But I just honestly feel like, if you honestly know that that's something that you don't want to do, and you know that you're going to disturb somebody's peace, and you're intentionally doing it and it's not for a good reason, and I just feel like you just need to stay where you're at. So that's my take on the whole situation. I just feel like, stay in your space because, believe me, I'm going to stay in mine. I'm not going to come over to mess with you and doing anything If I know that I'm not in the right mindset to be dating or right minds to be having friends. I don't have my share of liars when it comes to friends and liars when it comes to relationships and it's like at this point in time they done made it hard for any and everybody and that's hard and that's messed up to say because you might have somebody that comes around and they really are on that type of level, they own that, like they really might be a good person and, you know, really want some some real stuff or whatever, but from the people that have been around you or the baby daddies, the baby mamas and anything like that you know or fake friends and people, friends that have tried to use you or set you up and things like that it make you not even want to have any friends and make you not want to have any relationships. It make you not want to have any associates or any of that. So when all this stuff start happening, it's like you don't even know.

DJ KORNBRED: 28:21

Disturbing a piece just to be disturbing the peace. Stay where you at and leave people alone. That's all I'm going to say stay where you at and leave people alone. No more dtp in. That's what we should have got. Dtp it no more disturbing the peace. That's what we should have called it. Dtp it no more disturbing the peace. So we're going to get out of here. This, your girl, dj Cornbread, for Shit Show the Podcast. We will check y'all live every Tuesday. Y'all already know we on podcasts. You can catch us everywhere Spotify, apple Music, amazon Music. We are everywhere. If you would like to be on the show or you want to call in, the number is 855-860-7806 and you already know what it is. Ah.