The Narcissism Trap: How Self-Centered People Destroy Relationships and Peace

Fashitsho Podcast | Episode 13: "Spotting a Narcissist: Understanding Narcissistic Behavior"
 

Narcissistic behavior leaves a trail of emotional destruction that can take years to heal from. Have you ever bent over backward for someone only to have them act like you did nothing at all? Or dealt with a person who never—not once—admitted they were wrong about anything?

DJ Cornbread tackles this frustrating reality head-on, breaking down why narcissists can be so incredibly damaging to our mental health and relationships. Drawing from both personal experience and clinical understanding, she explains how these self-centered personalities operate—constantly shifting blame, refusing accountability, and somehow always positioning themselves as the victim regardless of their actions.

"You can feel like you went above and beyond to the moon and back," she says, "and they'll still find something lacking." This impossible-to-please nature creates unbalanced relationships where one person gives everything while receiving minimal appreciation or reciprocity in return.

The episode dives into the clinical aspects of Narcissistic Personality Disorder while providing 14 specific warning signs to watch for, including fantasies of greatness, exploitative behavior, and manipulation tactics like gaslighting. Whether you're currently dealing with a narcissistic friend, partner, family member, or coworker—or simply want to protect yourself from these relationships in the future—this raw, unfiltered conversation offers both validation and practical wisdom.

Ready to stop blaming yourself for a narcissist's behavior? Listen now, and learn why setting boundaries isn't just suggested—it's absolutely necessary for your wellbeing. Share your experiences in the comments; we're building a community that understands exactly what you're going through.

Chapters

• 0:00 Introducing The Narcissism Episode
• 3:27 Why Narcissists Can't Take Responsibility
• 6:28 Nothing You Do Is Ever Enough
• 9:12 Can Narcissists Actually Change?
• 11:55 Understanding NPD: The Clinical Perspective
• 12:56 14 Warning Signs of Narcissism

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

The Shit Show. The podcast starts now with DJ Cornbread, aka the Empress. What's up y'all? It's your girl, dj Cornbread, aka the Empress. Y'all already know what time it is.

Speaker 1: 0:12

Back with another one man, say EP13, this episode is going to be talking about narcissistic people. Episode is going to be talking about narcissistic people. Oh my God, that is a big one. I am tired of you motherfuckers. Oh my God, stranger danger. Like what the fuck? Like I'm so tired of narcissistic ass people. Like come the fuck on. Like, come come on now.

Speaker 1: 0:45

Like if you know for a fact you narcissistic and you don't have no good intentions when it comes to somebody, or you don't really want to fuck with somebody you know. Like, leave them alone. Like do you stay to your fucking self. Like why do narcissistic people do shit like that? And then they never end the fucking wrong. Nothing they do is wrong, everything is right. You can't tell a narcissistic person, a narcissist, nothing. Like every little thing that they do, they feel like they, they, they right, they ain't done nothing wrong, they, they, they play victim all the motherfucking time. It don't matter, they play victim, oh yeah, so if you weren't doing this or if this wasn't this is net and I wouldn't have acted like this or I wouldn't did like this, like, come the fuck on, take some kind of fucking responsibility, like you a narcissist, and you just need to fucking admit that shit like. You just like just admit that shit. I hate motherfucking people that do that like damn, and then like they're playing a victim type shit, like oh well, this is this, this, and that I wouldn't. Wouldn't have did that if. If you wouldn't did this and I'll let off fake ass shit. No, no, no, ain't, no, it ain't none of that shit. You, just you, just one of them motherfuckers that feel like the what ball is in your hands? Everything gotta go how you want it to go. If it don't go how you want it to go, then you're gonna be on some old, weird ass shit like and I don't know, I don't know, I'll be feeling like, so I'll be wanting to feel like some narcissistic people can change, but I'm starting to feel like you motherfuckers can't change.

Speaker 1: 2:26

I don't see a lot of people talking about this shit. Be like, no, don't trust those narcissists, hell, no, they can't change, they never. They never gonna change. They'll sit there and act like they can change, or they gonna change, or sit there and and just move around from your ass and and just randomly just stop talking to your ass and then try to go find somebody that's just like you, or this, this and that A friend that's just like you. It could be a relationship or a friend, and they'll try to do this and that, and then that shit don't go how it go, or it could be, it could have been going how they probably wanted it to go, but then they always try to come back and step back and go backwards or go back. Let me see if this can happen. Let me see if I can, if I can go back here and do this just to see all this type of shit.

Speaker 1: 3:09

Stop going and fucking with people. Narcissistic ass motherfucker, stay your ass where you at. I'm tired of y'all motherfuckers, tired of y'all asses. Like damn man, like if you know that you don't have no good intentions with somebody, or going to fuck with them or being around them. Like leave them alone. Like stop going and just like disturbing their peace. Like that's enough shit. Back to another episode that we did before. Like stop going and disturbing motherfuckers' peace.

Speaker 1: 3:35

Narcissists, like y'all always disturbing people's peace. Let y'all shit stay fucked up like if y'all don't want to change for y'allself and for the better for other people, stop going to fuck up other people's shit. That shit weird as fuck man. That shit is weird, weird, weird, weird. Stay, your narcissistic ass over there Like don't nobody, like all that fake ass, narcissistic ass shit and you can't do nothing.

Speaker 1: 3:59

You can't try to do nothing for a narcissistic ass motherfucker. You can't try to do anything any. Don't try to go above and beyond. For a narcissistic motherfucker like, any little thing that you do is not enough. You can feel like you went above and beyond to the moon and back. You'll go to a narcissist and be like baby. I went and got the moon for you and everybody that I found out that was living on that motherfucker and they gonna be like damn, like where the? Like they ain't. Like where I mean it wasn't no money up there, like you didn't bring, like no shoes or nothing. Like they ain't had no jewelry, um, like you just bought the world, you just bought it back. And the people like I mean like they also they on some like man, I just don't understand. Like the motherfuckers like they don't be happy.

Speaker 1: 4:51

Nothing you do will make a narcissist happy like nothing, and then don't try to help a narcissist, the motherfucker. No, like you can say they can tell you they need help or they can basically speak to you about a problem, which basically is letting you know that they need help and you can help them. And then they'll say why do they? Why y'all always say this. They say you didn't have to do that, you did that on your own. I ain't asked you to do that. What the fuck is that? Like what you? What the fuck you mean? And don't say, oh, I mean shit. Well, it's true, I ain't asked you to do that. You the fuck is that like what you? What the fuck you mean? And don't say, oh, I mean shit. Well, it's true, I ain't ask you to do it, you did that. Show you, oh, that's not the fucking point. Like I hate when people do that shit.

Speaker 1: 5:31

Act fucking boo-boo the fool, act stupid as fuck, like you don't understand what the fuck is going on and what you're doing. That's that narcissistic ass shit. Like come on down there trying to act like you don't know, know what you're doing and know it's just. Oh, I just want to take control and just act like you don't, you didn't do this, or you didn't do that, or I don't know why this person acting like this? You just uh to anybody else that's around you. You're just a good person. You're just the perfect, perfect motherfucker in this situation. You ain't done nothing wrong. You don't know why this person doing this, acting like that, or don't want you to be around them, or halfway fuck with you and this, this and that you narcissistic-ass person. You Tell the truth to your friends and family members and everybody else. Just associate. Stop lying to yourself and lying to other people. That shit, they're X, d, fuck out of me.

Speaker 1: 6:27

I wonder when narcissists like do y'all go get help? I mean I honestly feel like when y'all go get help, does it help? Does it work, shit. I'm starting to think that that shit don't even work. Like it don't even matter. I mean it don't matter. I'm starting to think that shit don't matter. It don't matter if a narcissist, it don't matter. What's wrong to think that shit don't matter, it don't matter if a narcissist go get help or not. Like y'all motherfuckers, that's just the type of shit, y'all, that's how y'all be on. Like oh god, I just talking about these motherfuckers giving me a headache, shit.

Speaker 1: 6:54

I mean I don't understand, like, why do you just, you motherfuckers, I always have to just, oh, I don't know that shit thirsts for the birds for me, like, you can't tell the motherfucker shit, everything is right in they eyes. They, they just like and then don't be having, don't have no argument with no narcissist. Don't have no argument with a narcissist, because that motherfucker is going to sit there and act like you did it, you did it. You the reason why they acting like that, you the reason why their life is in shambles. You the reason why they can't do this. You the reason why they can't do that shit. You fuck around with the reason why they can't fuck Anything.

Speaker 1: 7:40

I mean just anything, dating, all of that. They'll just try to blow it all on you and it's just them. Like every little thing. Like they never take accountability for nothing, shit. I'm starting to think that's. I don't know if that's a Leo thing. Yeah, because of course it's not. I know it's not. Let me take that back because, shit, it's this narcissist. That's not leo. So I, I don't understand this. I just don't understand these motherfuckers like this shit here is for the birds, like, and then they really y'all really do shit to people and then wonder why when y'all try to come back around motherfuckers, y'all get the silent treatment Like that's why? Like because you, on that foolery fuckery, that fake ass who wants to deal with a motherfucker like that, like stay in your space Like ugh, I don't even know what to say. Man, that shit is for the birds, that shit is trash. Dubster juice Like period Cool. I don't understand that man. Like that narcissistic-ass shit Y'all need to. Y'all need that shit. Like I said, y'all need to do something with that shit. That shit is for the motherfucking birds. But you know what, when y'all go?

Speaker 1: 9:01

Narcissism a self-centered personality style characterized as having an excessive preoccupation with oneself. You don't care about nobody but your motherfucking self, nobody but yourself. It's all about you. Self-importance a need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others Like that shit is trash. Like what type of person? Like don't give a fuck about nobody but they self? Let me let y'all know some key characteristics of narcissism. So self-importance Narcissists tend to have an inflated view of their own abilities, achievements and importance. Need for admiration they crave attention and seek constant praise and validation from others. Lack of empathy they struggle to understand or care about the feelings and needs of others Entitlement. They believe they are deserving of special treatment and have a sense of entitlement. Like arrogance. They often display an attitude of superiority and maybe, like I mean condescending, sorry, like what the fuck? Like come like. This is crazy and it is actually a such thing as called npd narcissistic personality disorder for you people that don't understand, they don't know like this shit is real.

Speaker 1: 10:33

While narcissism is a personality style, narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health condition characterized by a persistent and pervasive pattern of these traits. People with NPD often have difficulty forming and maintaining health relationships, healthy relationships. They may struggle with emotional regulation and may react defensively or aggressively when their ego is threatened. Like come the fuck on now. Important considerations not everyone who displays some narcissistic traits has NPD. It's important to distinguish between healthy self-esteem and narcissistic behaviors. If you suspect someone you know has NPD, it's important to set boundaries and prioritize your own well-being. And if you're struggling with MPD or suspect you may have it, seeking professional help is recommended. Please seek recommended help because this shit is getting out of hand. But I mean, I'm just like for real, now, come on now. Like this shit is really really getting out of hand. Like y'all need to like sit down and somebody needs to have like a talk with like a whole room, like I know, like it's a lot going on, like they have to, oh I don't know, like it gotta be a whole bunch of shit, like somebody. They need to help these people because shit, I mean, mean I ain't saying I'm I know I ain't perfect, but that narcissistic shit.

Speaker 1: 12:06

Let me give y'all 14 signs of a narcissist. One fantasies of greatness. Two belief that they are special and unique. Three need for excessive admiration. Four sense of entitlement. 5. Interpersonality Exploitive behavior. 6. Lack of empathy. 7. Envy of others or belief that others are envious of them. Eight arrogant or haughty behaviors or attitudes. Nine difficulty handling criticism. Ten superficial relationships. Eleven lack of accountability. Twelve manipulative behavior, gaslighting guilt, tripping and playing the victim. 13, obsessed with status and appearance. 14, inability to maintain healthy relationships. And, with that being said, 14 says due to their self-centeredness of lack of empathy, narcissists struggle to maintain healthy, long-term relationships. They may cycle through friends, partners and colleagues, leading a trail of broken relationships in their wake. This inability to maintain healthy relationships can result in a pattern of loneliness, instability and repeated emotional trauma for both the narcissist and those they interact with.

Speaker 1: 13:39

Well, damn shit, I might need to stop interacting with fucking narcissists. Shit like what the fuck? Stay the fuck away from me. But I don't know, man, I'm about to get up out of here. Y'all already know what time it is, but shit show the podcast. Dj Cornbread, aka the Empress out. Hey man, this is BX the Clip I'm the beat. Man, this is the largest fashion show on the podcast. Say, I'm the beat.